You and your children have probably seen the sad events on the local news and you are wondering how to support them. Remember communication is always the key to supporting your children. At Sharing Parenting we have shared lots of information about how to keep the communication open, throughout the ages and stages, with active listening.
Barnardo’s have also shared 5 tips which may be helpful:
1. Be interested in their lives
Practice active listening and check in with them. Sharing a meal together, going for a walk or bus or car ride, playing a game, cooking together are all opportunities to allow them to talk and for you to listen.
2. Try to make talking about feelings and safety normal
Listen without judgement. Support them to problem solve. Ask open questions – such as ‘what could you do to help with that?’ or ‘What would you do next time?’
3. Be open about your concerns
Label the concern and behaviour – not the child. Use I statements. “I am concerned about you walking home alone, how would you get help if you needed it?”
4. Take a breath before reacting
Use the traffic lights – Stop – think- act.
5. Reach out to others
If you are concerned about your child’s or another child’s behaviour. Speak to your child’s school teacher/GP/organisation for further support or signposting.